“I Want What?” Blog #71

What is it that brings me the greatest satisfaction?

Where do I get my best ideas, thoughts and awareness?

How do I go from feeling sad to happy, bad to good?

l had to take my son to get a haircut and it was a place neither of us had been. When

we got there it was obvious by people coming and going, this was a hip place to be. My

son had lucked out. He was with a very funny, young Italian barber who never stopped

talking. None of the other barbers did either, and it was like a scene from the movie

“Coming to America”. At any rate, suddenly one of the barbers took off his apron and

said to the room, “IF my client comes in, tell him he was thirty minutes late and I’m outta

here…” Then he just left! Another twenty minutes went by and shortly after this, a young,

arrigant well-dressed man walked in. He said, “I’m here for my appointment”. One of the

other barbers told him he was very late now and he had lost his appointment. The man

did not seem to care. He kept standing there. He kept waiting, yet no one paid attention

to him anymore. Then He said I am here! Suddenly the barber who he had an

appointment with originally, walked in the door. This barber looked right at the man and

said, “Not only are you forty five minutes late, but you lied about when your appointment

was!” I booked you in at ten and that’s when I was here. I waited fifteen minutes, that’s

my limit. It was very clear who was in control and who was in charge and held the

reigns to this situation. The whole room went quiet. Then the Barber said, “Now if you can

tell the truth, admit you were late, I can give you the haircut…. What do you want?” The

man became sheepish. He apologized to the barber. He saw immediately this barber

had integrity. The barber refused to be lied to. He would not give the man a haircut until

his demands were met. The barber would not allow another person to lie to him or

disrespect him. Clearing the air, he stated his demands. His demands were met. I

immediately liked this barber. I thought, ”If only all of us could figure things out and move

on this way.” Live by this motto:

Tell the truth from the start. Show up for myself. Know what I want.”

Very few of us realize how much we’re tested every single day. Not to just do the right

thing, but to want the “right things in life”.

An example in my life I learned recently from something as simple as grocery shopping.

We all go to the grocery store. Do we know healthy, delicious good food to buy?

Sometimes we do. Most of the time, we buy the usual. We fill our cart with what we

want, which doesn’t mean it is the best choice. Then we stand in line. Standing in a long

line behind other peoples overflowing carts, I was getting frustrated. Then I overheard a

conversation in front of me. It went like this, “Oh… I see you have some very healthy

looking pizzas there, but is cauliflower crust really any good?” A handsome younger man

who appeared to be in perfect shape answered the woman. “Not only is it good, but I

looked into so many varieties and found this one to be less expensive. It’s tasty and

really healthy for you”. I thought of my own set ways. The only pizzas we were willing to

buy. Now when I grocery shop, I research better. When it comes to pizza, we eat

delicious califlour crust!

What I want is asked of me throughout my life. From what I eat, to where I go, to who I

decide to bring into my life for relationships. People are constantly testing other people

in so many ways, especially to see who can be boss!

What do I want now? I know I want to be respected.

Nothing brings a person more pain, darkness and sad thinking than to have a person be

disrespected. So many hidden ways it begins, grows then continues. The rolling of the

eyes, turning ones back on whose speaking, the interruptions mid sentence when

sharing a point of view. Insults, screams, swearing. Can this change? Can people be

respected and treat each other differently after long periods of time? The answer is YES,

and it’s all up to me. Quite simply put, IF I want to be respected, I must show up for me

today. I need to learn to love myself. I have to create important boundaries..

When my son got his hair cut, I watched how, if only for a brief moment the entire barber

shop was waiting….. waiting to see whether e barber would cut the mans hair, or not. It

all depended on “how it was handled”. Now the man needing a haircut, realized he had

to meet the barbers’ demands. THIS barber had principles and he insisted on an

apology before he gave any haircut!

I realized this past Sunday I too, had been given a choice to show how I needed to be

respected by a family member. A young family member informed me they had decided

they “didn’t feel like going to church anymore and would be staying home”. Immediately

we confiscated technology. We said, “This is our family home. We go to church together

as a family, until you are of age to do differently or choose not to live with your family”.

Funny, how this got attention big time. We all went to church together as a family. It

takes a lot of energy sometimes just to show up for ourself. Very often, we need to be

specific in creating our own boundaries. Even more so, it takes courage to do the right

thing. I keep remembering our children are our future and we need to raise them with

good examples at home. My children must know about the man Jesus Christ. HE is

always there for them. The world is tilting on its axis, going into overload with darkness

coming out of every corner. Still, our children come to us for answers. Can we give them

the truth?

We can when we know there is that bright divine light under every cloud of darkness.

I know this to be true. I believe in the Christ light. For It is HE who made me in HIS image

because my body is the temple of God. Therefore, I deserve nothing less then respect,

truth and honesty. I pray to live this way every single day.

“Not my will be done , but YOUR will be done in my life Lord today”

The greatest love is inside me. It all starts with believing in LOVE. I deserve respect in all I

do. There will be challenges. Other people will be around to try somehow to shake my

confidence, create havoc and attempt to disrespect me. It won’t work. For now, I AM

working on me. Boundaries in place, invincible bounderies now, all is well. I feel healthy,

whole and well. A wonderful book I am currently reading called; “The Power in You”

teaches how positive affirmations throughout ones day work. The book states it is

important to start looking at oneself as a great piece of art work. So I say now, I am

unique. There is no one person like me. I am a masterpiece. I say this all day long.

Respect is automatic. There are no gray areas. There is only. dark and light. I accept the

Christ light. HIS light, HIS power, always the “greatest Love of all.” Standing by this, I know

what I want each day.

Do You know what you want in your life today?

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