“A Lost Life” Blog #72
What triggers someone to give up?
Why do people choose the wrong relationships?
When will a person decide “enough is enough”?
Two years ago this day, I lost my beloved daughter, Bridget forevermore. She is gone
now and there is nothing to do to bring her back. However, if any one person can gleam
a positive fact for their own life that can, and should and will keep them from giving
up…..this Blog is working.
At the end of this month, finally after two years of waiting, I will be allowed to go to a
cemetery and see my daughter interred in a grave. Her remains have not been dealt
with until now. Never able to have a funeral for her, It has been unsettling for two whole
years. As her mother, I had absolutely no rights. Though she was separated at the time
she died - she was still married. A spouse is always the one in charge. Remember this.
It may be important. So fast forward now two years later on the anniversary of my
daughter Bridget’s death, I have been told there will be an internment before the end of
this month. Every person needs to be remembered with truth, dignity and reflections on
“that persons life”. Honesty. Integrity. Goodness. These are the qualities every single
person should look for in any and all relationships.
I have decided since I initially started this Blog in my daughters honor, I will give her this
final resting space to share my “Graveside Reflection” to her. I intend to read this when I
go. Perhaps you can gleam some truth somewhere.
“Bridget Laura Elizabeth was baptized into the Catholic faith and took her first
communion at 8 years old from St. Patricks Church. She grew into a lovely adult and
went to mass whenever she possibly could. Bridget was funny, intelligent and beautiful.
She attended private schools from an early age then graduated from high school with
excellent grades. Bridget was accepted into Indiana University. Gaining a membership
into a top sorority, her college years were filled with study, laughter and fun. Finishing
school with a semester abroad in Seville, Spain. Bridget had a sense of dress design and
style unique only to her. She loved to talk and give advice on just about anything!
Ending four years of college at Indiana, she obtained a Marketing/Creative Arts Degree.
Bridget then moved to Chicago and over the next few years, she obtained a Master
Degree in Early Childhood Education. She taught 2nd and 3rd grade at a Private School.
While teaching, Bridget met her future husband. Together they went on to create two
sons. They also had a successful business as well. Bridget had a great love for family
and an even bigger heart for her husbands first born son and his entire family. Yet
amidst Bridget’s Christ-light blessings, she was given free will to make tough choices of
Good vs. Evil. She gave in to dangerous vices of smoking, drinking and drugs. So filled
with confusion, darkness and despair, Bridget’s last days of sickness turn to death. Now
as painful as it is to remember, we reflect on Bridgets beauty. For she loved so many
beautiful things. This was her true essence. The gifted, good, loving Bridget. For she was
a daughter, a wife and above all, a Mother. She loved God and baptized both her boys
and took them to church. She planned all her boys birthdays and fun events at home.
For home was where Bridget played the piano and sang. Here Bridget decorated, gladly
gardened and did outdoor plantings. The gifts of her scrapbooking, glass angels and
framed family picture,s, are all that remain. Her cherished home where Bridget enjoyed
baking Christmas cookies and making Gingerbread houses with her two little boys.
Preparing all those delicious meals, all just a memory now. At the end of her life we see
there was so much good to embrace in her life. We know the Bridget who we truly loved,
remember and miss, is therefore her true essence. So It’s her laughter she leaves us with
today, in a way that only our Bridget can leave us. She tosses her head, and laughing
lightly, her long blonde hair, cascades in waves around and about her flawless face, as
she turns smiling and says; “Seriously?… Its only goodbye for now.” Jesus holds her
tenderly as HE gently comforts, erases and clears away her pain. Her Guardian Angel
Michael is right there beside her too. So trusting in Jesus, we close our eyes, we fold our
hands, and, we let her go. We give her back. All the while knowing, we will always have
her in our hearts, in our prayers, and in our memory. Lastly Jesus waits with her too. Until
someday he knows, we are all to be together once again.”
This is my final tribute to my dear daughter as she is laid to rest in a beautiful place
beneath an old oak tree. May she finally Rest In Peace.
I leave you with the light of God surrounding each and every one of your days. I sincerely
pray today that you have the opportunity to appreciate something special about
someone special who may be very close to you. For we can never take one single day
for granted.
Do I know what my purpose is today?
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