“Dangers Dance” Blog #27

When I was a little girl, I used to bite my lip, avoid stepping on cracks in the sidewalk

and hold my breath to a certain number …. all to make things ok in my own mind.

We all have different mannerisms and traits and secret little habits to make the

moment work each day in our lives. The funny part aboutf all of this is as we age,

we find different “fixes” for this dangerous dance in our mind. If we have faith that

grooms a healthy child then this brings about the belief that implants childish trust and

sets in “blind faith”. I know for a fact, the majority of all of us, as we look back over our

lives, could not picture ourselves exactly where we have come to be, at this moment.

Once again, it is the stress of each day that dictates our decisions for whether we go

forward or stay stuck. Very often we make our decisions based on fear. Then because

of this, we feel we cannot move forward. “Look what I have done?” we think. “Look how I

acted?”

“See the sadness that I created?” and so we stay stuck. The days turn into months and

the months become one year after the next. We just leave that memory alone. Did you

ever stop to think this thought, “The past is gone, I have new choices now!” At the end of

every day we only have the moment ahead to dictate how we will decide to go forward.

Another old saying, “Keep on doing the same things and the same things will keep

happening”. Can that decision possibly bring about healthy growth? Some people

believe they had so much misfortune, why not throw in the towel? Why not just give up,

Why not let it all go down the drain, and just die?’ Unfortunately the odds that your soul

life will be simpler and easier and better once you are gone, are not good. Not good

because you can’t possibly know the outcome! What IF everything you believe to be

TRUE on the other side of living is FALSE? No single person has concrete proof that life is

better or worse or non-existent once you are gone. Yet, so many people believe that to

end one’s life, is perhaps the best medicine, given all they have been dealt. The is truly

“dangers dance”. A person begins to skirt their way around all that life has given them

to deal with. “Poor me,” they think, look what I have been through.”

We are responsible for our own path and our own mission and our own decisions. Every

person that is in our life is in our life for a reason and they are here to see what we are

choosing to do with each and every day involving them. What do we do with each day

we are given? IF you are sad and depressed and let lethargic thoughts surround you

because of all the sadness that has come into your life - THIS IS EXACTLY WHERE YOU

CHOOSE TO BE.

Yet, know this - YOU ARE NOT GROWING AT A SOUL LEVEL , LIFE IS about overcoming all the

odds in the life lessons you are given”. Some years back after my tragedy with my

mother, my neighbor had become a good friend and stopped over to offer me a ticket

to an inspirational speaker. She wasn’t able to go and offered me her ticket. When I got

there, I found hundreds of cars, barely a space to park and a convention center filled

with people, I did not even know what man had commanded such a following.

However, now it peaked my interest and I tried to find a place to sit.

Midway down a filled row of people, there was one seat next to a particularly chatty

man laughing and talking to the woman on his right. I sat down and hoped no one

would speak to me. I had pushed myself to go to this, now I would stay and leave

quickly. I had so much real estate work to do. Yet, as the convention continued and

Deepak Chopra was speaking, I was still lost in my own misery. It was very difficult to

concentrate. I decided at the intermission…… I was out of there.

As I tried to navigate through the people to get to the front door and go to my car, it

was becoming harder and harder. There were people everywhere in line for coffee and

snacks or just talking. Suddenly, a hand touched my shoulder and I turned around. It

was the man who had been sitting next to me in the auditorium. He had the bluest eyes

and the kindest smile. What he said next to me, had a greater impact on me than all

the self-help books or counseling sessions I had ever been to. “I hope you are enjoying

yourself as much as I am. “ he said I immediately thought - “He has no idea of what I

have gone through”.

He continued to speak in a quiet, assured tone. “You know, I lost my wife and four

daughters in a house fire, yet I have come to realize I am so thankful for the lessons that

I have learned from their deaths”. He smiled at me confidently and disappeared into the

crowd! I never even got his name, he knew nothing about me and I would never see

him again! How did this happen so quickly and what in the world did he mean by this

comment? “He was so thankful…..?” thankful for WHAT? I became so emotional that I

got to my car and I was crying hard. More than anything else I had misjudged this total

stranger. Yet, he left me with such confusion. What in the world could he have meant?

In the following months and years I started studying hermeneutics and the study of the

Bible. I began reading many books about “Soul work” and also “Spiritual Truths” I came

to the understanding that I was not even on the tip of the icberg, but I was definitely on

a good path of evolving in a positive way.

I started questioning my own purpose for living. I STOPPED DRINKING/SMOKING.

I stopped doing everything my own way and doing “dangers dance daily”. I started

trying new, healthy ways of living and eating and thinking. This is what I came up with.

Each of us CANNOT stop another person from their own personal choices. I know I have

gone back over my own gudance for my daughter who tragically died last year and I

cannot lie, I did question WHY?

Why wasn't she able to be saved? Why couldn’t the universe come forth and give her a

miracle if I truly do believe in miracles? There cannot be a life saved when that life is on

a path of deliberate destruction. Heavens doors will open when we ask for HELP for

ourselves. Each and every one of us are given “Free Will” and we each have that choice

daily. We cannot save another human being from THEMSELF. However, we can save

ourself by choosing to STOP “Dangers Dance”. Ask HIM for help today.

IF we are taking drugs, smoking, vaping and taking pills to curb anxiety, to stop

thinking or buy one more day - we are just existing. Maybe your addictions are not

drugs or alcohol. Maybe they are anger, resentment, and fear for how people have hurt

you horrifically. Do you continue to carry a grudge? Can you find it in your heart to

learn the lesson why they were or are there? Can you forgive them unconditionally?

For each of us are on our own soul path. Each of you know who you are. Staying stuck

breeds more anger, resentment and contempt. This stops a soul from evolving in a

positive, productive healthy manner. So, can you take a deep breath, just breathe in

another deep breath, and breathe out all negative feelings for someone who has kept

you stuck in their own darkness. Maybe this has kept you from letting go. So just

breathe deep, and watch what happens.

I end this blog and ask you in all earnest; “Can you stop this dangerous dance today?”

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