“Why Open Up? Blog #78
What’s so important about “Opening Up” to myself?
Will it matter if I looK DEEP inside, and “open up”?
Why should I even bother, when I was hurt so badly?
Some of us walk down the sidewalk straight down the middle. We do not veer to the left
or the right. God forbid, we look back……..
Our day is filled with routine. Day in and day out decisions are often made “just like we
did yesterday”….. Same ol’ way we choose to live. Really now, it’s safe, right? So why rock
the boat? It’s not that I feel it necessary to dwell on or in the past. However, it is
necessary to look at my life with complete clarity. If there is anything I feel has kept me
stuck, this is where I need to focus. There are certain things in life that make people
come alive. Feel good about self. Do I feel vibrant and alive? Or do I privately feel
abandoned? Many of us live life judging each other, anyone who comes in and out of
our lives. We continue to recall events that happened as “sad family meetings for us”.
Isolated situations have kept us angry. Stuffed feelings are intentionally hidden away.
So important to stay focused on all the wrongs that have happened ….. who did what,
when and why. Yet, the moment a family member dies, what shifts? Now what to do
with all those concrete thoughts and feelings?
Maybe now, even more difficult to open up and look at, so “just file safely away”. Does
anyone consider how important it is to “Open up and clean out the attics of our minds?
Clean out and refurbish with forgiveness. Then implanting the idea of reaching out with
love. Complete unconditional love and accept the fact everything has happened to
each of us for a “personal growth reason”.
Is there a healthy reason to keep on with our own private anguish? Most often the
reason is PRIDE and JUDGEMENT and BLAME. One person decides to stay away. Another
person decides to drink. Another person decides to pour themself into work. Yet,
another person finds release in food. Another person pours their heart out in gossip.
So many ways to just “run away”. Do anything to avoid the obvious. There are healthy
ways to mend a family relationship.
Simply put, Forgive the person in our heart and then move on.
How hard is it to open up? Talk quietly, peacefully and lovingly with a distant family
member who has hurt us, filled us with anger and distance and judgment. Sometimes
the written word is best. All the time prayer is a starting point, more often than not, we
feel if we “open up”, we give up ourselves. We do not want to go “too deep”. We think
we don’t care anymore, but we do.
Our own life lesson, is our cross.
A change of mind.
A change of attitude.
A change of heart.
Have you ever seen a little child so resolute, with their heels dug in and mind set so
nothing can change their perspective on life? Not often. There are so many of us that
have people in our lives conditionally. What kind of quality of living life is this? God put
certain family members into our lives so we may learn about ourself. We learn about
our strengths and our weakness. This is important to look at “Why Open Up”; to open up
to truth inside us.
All we think, all we feel and all we do is inspired by “life situations” that have occurred
along the way. We all know that we will never change another soul, however, when we
learn and pray and forgive, we change for the better. WE MUST GROW INTERNALLY. It is
up to each of us to understand that each of us are on our “own separate path”. There is
growth, understanding and awareness at each level we are at. In the pain and suffering
we experience - IF we can let go of anger, judgement and denial, then we grow spiritually.
We grow quickly.
When we open up, we find understanding. We bring in an understanding heart.
Every day when I pray, I ask for “Not my will, but thy will be done.”
“Lord, please give me an understanding heart.”
It’s okay, it’s all okay to look at the things we are afraid of. As soon as we bring our mind
to focus on truth, we feel calm, accepting and aware.
“Don’t Give Up, Open Up?”
POEM
Anonymous
Totally set in my mind…. I shuffle through this day
No ones going to tell me differently,
I’m the one who gets to say!
Unaware of the beauty internally, I sense the need to know
My authentic higher self waits…….waiting at last to show .
Trailing sadly behind are yesterdays anger and fears
I slow down, let go and pray as I dry all my tears
Listening to my heart, finally now I grow.
its hard facing life sometimes, wherever I may go
but today there’s a brand new start.
NOW opening up to truth, I find my understanding heart.
What do we prove to ourself, by being so private? Open up and just breathe.
Just for today I can start out with a positive, non-judgmental approach to life.
“Do I understand the need to Open up my heart?”
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