“What If?” Blog #12

I know for a fact that truth is in everything. Every part of life reflects the truth in some

way. However, it is up to each person to find truth in his or her own way. Therein lies

the rub. Understanding what we are suppose to do with our lives each and every day

becomes too much for so many.

We often hide behind a veil of things that appear to make life “easier”.

There is a simple statement that I believe makes life easier to grasp.

Each of us are given our own lessons to learn from.

However, I did not know this for so many years.

Until I found this to be true for myself, my life was filled with darkness and difficulty.

Years ago, if you stopped me on a street corner, I would have been astonished and said

“what are you talking about?” I had money. I had a very successful career in real

estate, a big house, my own family with little children and who could want more?

Yet, life is full of twists and turns. I had no idea so many sad things that had happened

to me were not dealt with in an honest, truth-filled, open way. If I took one single

situation and brought it to light right now, I would say, “What if? What if I didn’t get

mad at my father who was a raging alcoholic and got cancer and died at the ripe old

age of fifty two? What if I hadn’t made up my mind thet last Christmas I saw him, to

swear I would never come home again while he was alive? He did die. I didn’t come

home. I only came home to his funeral.

Now years later, of course there are so many, “What if’s”. Understandably, we mature

over the years and hopefully learn from our experiences. However, its the dark,

dangerous details that don’t get worked on. They come back to visit us when we least

expect them. I was twenty two that last winter I saw my father. I was so wrapped up in

my own world, that when I did fly home for the Christmas holidays, my father was really

the last thing on my mind.

However, the anger, the rage, the broken heart I had from the way that he had

parented me…….where was all of that?

“What if” I had gotten in touch with my real sadness and my own anger and rage?

What if I had tried to learn about my self better and why I was making the choices

that I did, could I have prevented some of the sad relationships that came my way?

Could I have stopped my own drinking sooner? Would I have learned forgiveness

much quicker?

Life has a beautiful way of showing us when we are on the right course.

We feel peaceful. We sense goodness. We know we make good choices.

So getting back to my promise about writing a blog and keeping it simple.

The simplest way of getting my point across today is to share these two words

again and make them a sentence.

“What if you choose to see something in your life from your heart and not your head?

What I mean by this, is this. I have been very upset with a certain person in my life that

I seldom hear from. You might say, what’s the big deal about that? Well, its a big deal

because he means a lot to me. He is a family member. He is very close to my heart.

Yet, at the same time, his life is packed. He is busy from sunup to sundown and then

falls into bed. I would do anything to be closer to him. Yet, this is not possible

at least not right now. So, I got angry, without him knowing it. I let my pride

take over and even when he did call - I was busy. I stayed away. I didn’t answer.

“What if, I just let I go? What if I did like Jesus did and said, “Father, forgive them, for they

know not what they do”? What if today I tried to look at every situation in my life and all

the people in my life, from a different perspective, non-judgmental.

I am beginning to feel the weight lift and more of a lightness of being. I also

think by not judging any one else, this can allow me to “lighten up” and let go.

What if I just look at all the goodness in the people around me and refuse to

judge them. This does become hard to do, yet it is possible.

What if today you found one person in your family that you refuse to let

darkness or their addictions or their anger affect your growth?

What if today you prayed for them and let it go.

What if you came to the understanding that it is not possible to fix other people.

However, it is possible to fix yourself. It is possible to forgive yourself. It is possible

to love yourself and accept yourself just as your are. I believe we are all given the

tools we need for every part of our life. There are teachers all around us. Family

members are also our teachers. We are here to learn such valuable lessons.

What if you decide today this might be your truth too?

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