“Officially Gone'' Blog #35

Everything in our past is gone now, forever.

There are only good and bad memories for all of us living, to choose from. NOW given

these 2 choices, why choose only the good memories? IF we choose to look at the past

as our ‘teacher”, we are VERY fortunate. For now we become aware and are in a good

place. Then believe it or not, we start growing in a positive manner. Lots of people

wonder why in the world were they put in a certain family? Many of us wonder why

certain family members keep hurting our lives? I remember a very wise counselor

telling me once “when the student is ready, the teacher appears”. How can that be?

And what does that even mean? This is what I feel that statement means. We go thru

life and we each and every one of us, are given different lessons to learn and discern

and evolve from. Almost every lesson we are given comes in the form of other people.

People all around us are there for the “teaching”.

Of course, when we are little we learn from our families, both good and bad habits.

We learn a lot of laughter in the home and we may learn a lot of sadness depending on

the parent. Some parents are workaholics and strict with dscipline. Other parents are

liberal and loose. Some parents sent dangerous signals by daily dozes of pills and liquor.

Other parents hide feelings. of affection and love. Some parents just plain gave up and

followed their own selfish needs. People don’t always learn from life’s situations that

happen to them. they don’t look at this as a “learning tool”. LIFE IS FOR LEARNING LESSONS. It doesn’t matter who or where we came from

when it comes to learning;.because in the end, we walk away from family life with our

own concrete ideas on how to live life. Ah-ha. And so then we start. We are either

afraid or assured. We are either filled with hope or filled with fear. We either believe in a

Godly spiritual force that is guiding us or we don’t even give it a thought, for then we

go on to live a secular, carefree life of want and need. WE justify our reasons for raising

children as we wish. Life continues on.

However, whether we are 15 years old or maturing our way into late life, what do we

actually know that is ‘TRUTH’? How do we learn to discern? We still each have

something in common with one another. We get to make choices every single day,

right from wrong and good from bad. And very importantly, happy from sad. We can

choose to be happy. At one point in my life, I had four beautiful children, and now have

three. I choose to remember all the good mermories from my eldest daughter above

all. How do we officially close the door to our own sadness,, despair and heartache?

I just do it. I pray for courage, strength and peace of mind THEN Just do it. We CAN say

to ourselves, “I used the tools I had at the time, nothing more and nothing less. I could

not do more than I know now I was equipped with”. Then I give it all to HIM.

I officially say the past is over and I close that door. It’s officially gone.

Sometimes its not possible to tell someone you forgive them, or say you are sorry

yet, in your heart and mind -you can say and think this thought and this becomes a

very freeing feeling. To understand that the past is no more in our control and to

believe that it is only there in the past as a “directional tool” giving us the opportunity to

go forward and thrive or to stay stuck and die on the vintage vine of hopeless, lost

regret. If so, this is not learning, this is not going forward. This way of thinking is not

healthy. SO I LET IT GO.

Recognizing and letting go of any mistakes we think we have made is HUGE. Other

people will always be our ‘TEACHERS’ in some way or another. It is hard to look at life this

way but therein lies the rub. I learned many lessons from my daughter, Bridget. First

and foremost I learned you cannot save someone from themself. Everyone makes their

own choices. Bridget had made some bad ones. Yet, I saw her sadness her fears, her

hope and her tears. In the end, She taught me this……….

I learned about forgiveness and patience and humility from her. I also learned how to

take my inner pain and persevere wanting to help someone else. We all know that time

can be our friend or our foe. PAIN, inner pain, is a powerful teacher.

How do we use our time each and every day? Are we genuinely healing ourself?

Last evening I was sitting in my den alone changing the channels on the television.

How very many choices I had. Do we think about this each day? Do we randomly

pick a show that we can fixate on sadly? We can change it! We can watch comedy or

horror on tv, we can watch inspiring, or depressing movies. We can educate ourselves

or stare at a mindless reality show. OUR LIFE is entirely up to us, I tried a little experiment

with myself after one of my many overwhelming migraine headaches which usually

transpired into severe states of sadness and depression. Many days of senseless

darkness.

I forced myself to try something brand new. I immediately dressed in something nice,

got out of my house, as hard as it was, I did this. Then I walked and walked and walked.

I tried to notice things that had no importance to me before. I breathed deeply over

and over again, I put my hands together and I cried for help internally. I just kept

walking. I had brought along a bottle of water and I stopped where it seemed safe

and sat on a park bench. I began to “people watch“ and it was comforting.

Suddenly I started to think about other people. Every single person comes into this

world all alone. Every person goes through life with their own set of issues, happiness

and sadness and then we all go out of this world alone, There is nothing leaving earth

with us except for our soul. Then I believe, if we have learned our lessons and we have

done a good job here on earth, we get to be reunited with our families and our pets.

This is truly a heavenly thought. This is my faith belief. So in all honesty, my blog today is

about closing the door to the past. The part of our lives where we must accept the fact

we only had the tools to deal with that part of our lives then.

That was then, and this is now. My days of sickness are behind me

Who we are depends on each one of us. Who we are depends on our choices today.

We can choose to go out and help in some way, another person. We can choose to

love and to be kind and to forgive. We can choose to grow internally. Finally, IF we can

just accept HIM. HE, who was a Jew, yet a man who unconditionally embraced all

mankind. HE who only spoke love to his last beaten breath then saying to us all, “Father

Forgive them, for they know not what they do”.

Does that sound like some dangerous criminal we should kill?

NO, on the contrary we are afraid of his overpowering love for us all.

Is HE really too perfect for us?

Can we just try one day to do life differently? Be less stubborn by accepting HIM. Look

at our body as the Temple of God. Try to be kind to our bodies by good food and

healthy choices. Put only healthy thoughts into our mind and our actions. If someone

we know is on a darker, denser, lowly path - we may need to move away, lest we get

sucked into that darkness. Closing the door slowly, confidently and officially saying the

past is over. I will ask for help from my Lord always and when I feel weak, I will learn and

say the Light Power of Protection Prayer. Knowing when said, I am always safe from

harm.

The light of God Surrounds me,

The Love of God enfolds me,

The Power of God Protects me,

and the Presence of God watches over me, Wherever I am - God Is and All is well.

Today I ask you, “Can you officially close the door and learn from your past”?

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