“It’s Unfinished” Blog #30
When we realize we are here to learn our lessons and help other people, our life
then becomes meaningful. Someone once said to me: “Have you ever seen a
hearse with a luggage rack on it?” Other than being depressing, what could that
possibly mean to you or I?
Quite simply put - we can’t take it with us. All the things that we accumulate here
on earth, we can’t take. At the end of the day, we finally must realize that we
come into the world alone and go out of this world alone.
Yet, look at ALL the in between…..what are we all about? We most often, start in
a family and move up thru the family chain of one memory after another and then
we adopt to our new family of choice, a wife or husband and our own children.
Our own children to raise them as we see fit. What does this possibly mean?
I was reading some statistics the other day and it saddened me beyond
belief to see that the “family as we use to know it, does not exist anymore”.
Wives and husbands have gone their separate ways, children are raising
themselves and the saddest piece to all of this is that unfinished part. How
do we help the children find their way when they are lost in despair and sadness
and isolation? Things happen along the way, every day we experience some
part of life that affects us in a positive or a negative manner. I remember back…
I was at the top of my game. I was a super seller of homes and I knew it. My
husband and I were successful beyond our concept of how much money we
could possibly make in our mid twenties. We had a huge home, a healthy little boy,
a cabin and a speed boat. We both drove new cars and better still, we bought
anything we wanted to without a care in the world. In the back of my mind though,
I knew, I always knew something was not right. Life was perfect as long as I did
not slow down and think about it. There were parts of my family that were in
darkness. There were parts of my husband’s family that he never even wanted
to talk about, much less share. Then there was religion and faith and all that
stuff, all the stuff that we just did’nt bother getting into. We left it alone….
You might say it was unfinished business, but it was uncomfortable to talk
about. My husband came from a family that were not really believers in HIM
or practicing Christians. I was not either. I came from a family that said they were
“Christians” and they attended church religiously. However they lived contrary to
everything they said they believed in. It was so confusing that I swore that
when I got married, it just wasn’t going to matter. I wouldn’t think about it.
The important parts of my life were left unfinished.
Yet we brought children into the world without a strong faith to support us.
Now I look around and backwards at my own life decades ago and so much
sadness and sorrow and tragedy. I had no way to deal with all of this.
Today I know this one fact to be true.
IF I did not know HIM in my life, my life would be meaningless. IF I did not believe
all the family members that have died, are gone forever and I will never in all
eternity see them again, my life would be meaningless. IF my children came
to me and asked “Why mom, why did all this have to happen?” Then I would
have nothing to tell them. This is the reason so many people have no faith to pass on
to their children and the skyrocketing suicide numbers. IF my children came to me
and saw so much sadness around them, and for instance their best friend had just
died. “Why MOM, why did this have to happen?” IF I had nothing to tell them, then my
life AND their life would be meaningless.
It is time for each of us to look deep inside and see what it is that defines WHO
we are. We are being asked to do this in so many ways. Those of us that have
children, will have questions coming from them until the day that we die.
HOW WILL WE ANSWER THE QUESTIONS THEY HAVE?
What defines WHO you are? Can you honestly look into a little Childs face and not
want to talk about angels, and the Devine light of eternal love, HIS love? This is HIS
unconditional love for each and every one of us. This is faith and this is what keeps
family together. Even in divorce, children can feel the pain less, if the parents talk less
about blaming each other, and more about HIS love for supporting us. Children are
not born with hatred. Children are born with love for both parents. Of all the things that
you own, what is it that you own in your house that is religious? Our possessions cannot
possess us, things go away, people go away, But HIS love never leaves us. Remember
when I told you to close your eyes and sit very quietly with yourself and ask…..”who is my
guardian angel? the answer will come. It did for me. I am convinced beyond the
shadow of a doubt that there is something so beautiful beyond this life we are living.
I am convinced because I have had many miracles happen to me.
There was a movie out years ago that depicted what I am saying quite graphically.
If you get a chance, watch the movie with Demi Moore, “Ghost”. This movie shows
the darker side of life and Whoopi Goldberg brings in some funny lines, but it’s the end
of the movie that grips you, I can’t tell you what it is, for I will give it away. Watch the
movie and you will get it, no question.
I remember an interview that was given by Mother Theresa years ago, she
was one person that wound up with the Nobel Piece Prize. She did so much
good in the world in healing the leaper colonies and with the Little Sisters
of the Poor. She was a little bit of a woman with a strong constitution. She
was also in New York one year before she died and a newscaster was
interviewing her and asked her this question, “With so much grief in the world
how can any one person begin to make a difference?” Mother Theresa looked up
at him and smiled. “One person at a time”, she said. I also remember when
I was overcome with grief after loosing family members, my spiritual
counselor at the time told me something that has stuck with me for years.
“If you want to forget about your own grief, go out and help someone else.”
How unselfish that statement is right? But then, I also remember hearing
this, “When the student is ready, the teacher appears”. Whats missing in your life?
I will close on that note today and ask you simply this:
“Are you ready now to take care of some unfinished business?”
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