“Feel Safe?” Blog #169
Inside my thoughts, what are my “red light” issues?
What tools combat loneliness, depression and anxiety?
Where is my “safe place”, when all around me is chaos?
We are not superhuman. Life is hard. I cannot always resist the incredible pull of old
habits, old temptations and my old weaknesses. For my life to become stronger, better
and healthy, I need to work at it, change parts not working and have a concrete plan. Yet
the biggest part in all this, what inspires me? Above all, I realize the environment
surrounding me has a massive effect on me!
So at the beginning of each day I have to accept ONE important rule,
I need internal, daily uplifting CONSISTENCY.
The way to have happiness in my life is to believe I am loved. I believe I am loved just for
myself. I believe I am loved in spite of myself, past and present.
I NEED TO RELY ON THIS PREMISE.
Who is going to love me this way? ONLY Jesus Christ, unconditionally.
So today I am going to make a list of all my “Trigger Point Issues’. These are my red, yellow
and green light issues. What in the world is going to make a “red light issue”? It’s going to
be something or someone, past or present, that upsets me terribly and there is absolutely
nothing I can do about it! So on my list I put either a persons name, or the situation that
has caused me days, weeks, years of heart ache and I write in “red magic marker,” a big
red exclamation mark. Then I look at my list. I prefer to keep it at “ten” or under. Therefore I
can work my list better. I go on to anything or anyone or any situation and I mark it
“serious - red, take caution, yellow and Green is always Go, or a good relationship. The
yellow comes in to play when I see a person or something ahead of me or currently who I
am “not really comfortable with”. An example would be “a friend who likes to gossip and
tries to pull me into the loop”. A yellow mark may soon turn into red! Green mark is
“safety”. A green mark for a person, or situation or event is “SAFE ZONE”. Before I make up
my list for Trigger Point Issues”, I must have a short list in place for my own “Internal
Safety Support”. What does this list consist of? Before I rise each morning I make a mental
note to now pray to Jesus to protect me and my day. I pray for all those around me. I eat
a good breakfast and I stretch/exercise. Plan and “road map my day”
It’s nice to have a “mentor” in life. This is a person who one feels safe in reflecting their
habits. A mentor is a person who has good habits with good qualities. This mentor’s good
qualities reflect values I believe in and are important and positive for me. I might also note
a “green check mark” goes next to a person who I feel is totally and completely honest.
This person and I have mutual respect for each other. They have a sense of humor and
are fun. They are quick to be forgiving and filled with remorse if needed. Always this
person, who I value in my life, accepts responsibility for any contribution good or bad to
our friendship. I can always feel good sharing my thoughts and concerns and ideas with
this person. We all need at least ONE person in our life who has these qualities.
What’s interesting thus far, is I seemed to have developed a “three part plan” for myself. I
have an “Internal Safety Support” all set up for feeling safe. I have my prayer and
meditation and Jesus Christ in my heart. I have my external support system in place by
utilizing my “trigger Point Issues’ Plan. Then I have my “stress reducers” three part plan.
Breathing - Exercise - Healthy Eating. Here in lie the basis for my own good, health living
day in and day out. I must try very hard not to go into the “Red light area”. Therefore, I can
find peace and mindfulness a personal relationship with Jesus Christ my Lord.
How do I implement my tools to feel safe today?
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