“Boxed In” Blog #52
How about this for a start to our day ~ Let’s crack the Box wide open!
We wake up, stretch and walk over to our mirror. We look in the mirror and we say the
following firmly, “I will tell the truth today. I will tell the whole truth, and nothing but the
truth to myself and others, so help me God”. Can we do thls ALL day long?
Remember when we were little, everything seemed to appear so much bigger?
Remember how our house looked giant? Everything in our world was brand new?
Now, how quickly we take our sacred life for granted. How often we feel overwhelmed?
How many times are we forced to admit,” I can’t climb out of this box I’m in”.
However, the human body is unbelievably strong, honest at its core and knows right
from wrong. Every minute of every day the body is healing itself.
So, what are the requirements for being and feeling “boxed in?”
There are four corners to this “box.”
!. The first corner is “LIES”. Lying to oneself, about anything at all.
2. The second corner is “FEAR”. Fear of the truth, that lies deep within.
3. The third corner is “GUILT”. Guilt about the way life was handled in the past.
4. The fourth corner is “BLAME”. So much of our past is blamed on doing it wrong.
We have all heard the old adage, “Tell one lie and ten lies will be told to you.”
I remember a story about myself in middle school. Shortly after I moved over to my
Grandpas house, my aunts had purchased a nice used bike for me. I was beyond
excited. After I had started my new school, I was aware immediately of the cliques and
groups of kids who were the “haves” and the “have-nots”. I was definitely a have not.
There were the popular girls with their Sabor purses, their Capezzio flats and their Mohair
sweaters. One day after gym I thought; who will ever notice if I just take a yellow mohair
sweater from a bossy, popular, pretty girls locker, who I secretly envied? She had so
many.
I did this and brought it home and hid it under my bed for the longest time. I would
figure out later how to explain it to my aunts. After a few weeks, I went to get it under the
bed and it was gone1 I didn’t dare say anything to my aunts because it was stolen and I
had not found a story to fill in all those ugly lying blanks.
Not even a week later I rode my bike up to the drop store after school, for a cherry coke.
As I came out of the store, I saw my bike had been stolen! I was beyond heart sick and
beside myself with anger as I raced home to tell my aunt what had happened. She was
old and I was young and it was just the way she looked at me that made me feel
insecure and she would never understand. I was crying hard as I walked into the
kitchen. My aunt turned from the sink where she was peeling potatoes and after
listening to my story, she firmly spoke. “How can you possibly be sad?, “she said. “The
universe always has a way of righting itself. Was the sweater you took, worth losing the
bike you loved so much?”
I felt my face go crimson. I watched as she turned her back on me. I felt humiliated to
the core. Yet, I had learned a very powerful lesson. It was not only about stealing
something, but the lies that go with it. I had been lying to myself and others as well.
There’s an old saying that goes like this, “oh, the vicious webs we weave, when we
practice to deceive”.
It is very difficult to tell the truth to ourself twenty four hours a day, seven days a week.
So…….. we justify, we ratlionalize, we dread, we ignore and……. we put off the TRUTH.
What am I talking about here? I am talking about complete honesty.
Way back in middle school it was hard to be honest with myself. I did not have the
right to take something that belonged to another. Let alone carry such jeolousy
and anger. Yet, once we go down that path, we rationalize truth away. Luckily, the bike
incident and a severe aunts lecture taught me early on about this important virtue. I
never forgot it. I learned my painful lesson.
Perhaps there is someone that really needs to hear the truth from you TODAY?
Are you brave enough to tell the whole truth to this person?.
How would it change a relationship? What is to be gained from doing this?
We are all ministers to one another. We are all here to help each other. If we lie and are
guilty of making a choice that was impulsive, we can learn from it. Who do we blame
for things in our life? Above all, where is our fear coming from? Well, there are only so
many parts to the day that we exist in. We sleep, we eat, we work, we socialize.
NOW - in the working and socializing of our lives come the dilemmas, the dramas, and
the dis-ease, and at times….darkness. It’s important to ask ourself, “do we like and can we tolerate the work we do?”
If so, then it’s not the work. Do we feel peace-filled around those in our inner-circle?
If not, WHY NOT? What is there to discuss? Is there a white elephant in the room?
If we don’t address our biggest concerns, where do they go? How are they handled?
Trust me - they eventually manifest in our health somehow. Or, if another person
needs to be dealt with and you put it off, there will be more high drama until you
address it. If we have children that need our attention, or our guidance we must step up
to the plate or reap the consequences. If there is a family member or someone close
that needs to hear an “honest appeal”, best to pray first for guidance asking, “Thank
you for resolving things between this person and myself for the highest good of all.”
Then march right in and talk truth, tactfully, truthfully and with unconditional love in
your heart. It will all work out for the best.
Now, onto “being Boxed in” …. in this “box” we create for ourselves. We can easily
disassemble this box! We must disassemble this box. Draw a picture of “goal posts” on
four corners of a page. We need only put up boundaries to live within these goal posts.
Herein are the “goal posts of GOLD and the new framework of our lives, IF you choose to
accept this. we can paste to our refrigerator.
GRACE - Gods grace replaces blame.
FAITH replaces all our Fear.
HONESTY replaces all the Lies.
BRAVERY replaces all Blame.
My recipe for Healthy Living starts with HUMILITY.
Each person needs to possess 100% Humility.
Saying each morning, “Not my way today Lord, but THY WAY today Lord”.
Humility Definition:
“A person with humility needs to accept another way may be better than the way we
are currently living and doing things”. In other words - Humility is Freedom from pride or
arrogance. When we agree to humble ourselves, we can then hear our “higher self”
guidance. This now allows us FREEDOM from feeling and being “Boxed In”.
It all starts with one quiet earnest prayer.
‘CAN I stop feeling “Boxed in” Lord?
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