“Up, Over Anger” Blog #45
““I’ll be home for Christmas, you can count on me. Please have snow and mistletoe and
presents under the tree. Christmas Eve will find me where the love light beams, I’ll be
home for Christmas - if only in my dreams…….”
One of the oldest songs to celebrate the holiday season says it all. Nothing is worse
than seeing people who once loved each other, say hateful painful things to each other.
People who know each other well, (familiy members) can hurt each other in cruel,
intimate ways that only they know and keep score about. In your family, you know who
is vulnerable and how to take advantage of the situation. So when you think they
deserve it, think again. It may last a lifetime.
Be vulnerable, be open to change, willing to look at shame, sadness and regret
internally. If not, the other choice wins out! Stay in a prison that is built internally with
walls of resentment. Yet somewhere deep inside us lies inner wisdom, intuition and
imagination wait to do things differently.
I was looking at a few Christmas cards I started getting and am sad to see two cards
from a divided family. Last year one card came, from the same people. They have a
beautiful family and yet, are now divorced. Today there are more divorced families then
there are married families. More hate is replacing love that cemented judgement. All
the while the children are watching and hurting and waiting….Does anybody care?
Today in the secular world we have to ask ourselves, “what really counts?” Where is the
light that shines bright in each heart today as we get ready for HIS birth at Christmas.
Can you replace dark thoughts with light?
Can you replace fear with Faith?
Can you replace anger with acceptance?
Our children, family, health? The universe will always get our attention. If suddenly we
are given notice that something very serious affects our health. Does it not take center
stage? Of course it does. This puts all in perspective.
Yet, day in and day out we wrestle with our rage. We debate internally what this person
or that person did to us. We take this to heart and we keep it locked safely away. Our
ANGER AND all the JUDGEMENT.sitting deep within us. An old saying goes like this;
“We are not punished for our anger, but certainly our anger will punish us.”
WHAT IF All our anger is uinderstood now to be “our own lesson to learn from?”
Look at the person you have issues with, ask for help from HIM to see them differently.
Ask to see others thru HIS eyes. Even if you are not a faith-filled person, this will work!
Suddenly all anger, resentment and judgement is replaced with acceptance. A quiet
peace takes over you just where you are.
I started my Blog in the Memory of my daughter Bridget because I first came to the
realization and, understanding that above all, I could not fix things for her. One cannot
control another person.
I see now that I am alive because I can only love, learn and forgive myself. When
children are born, it’s time to give up selfish desires. Life becomes healthier when one
acceps this. The sad piece to this is: IF we donot have spiritual ammunition and spiritual
weapons to fight the darkness that comes creeping around, and the tragedy may befall
us, then darkness starts to control our life.
Drip by drip. Until it takes over and we forget…… we give up control and we give in to SELF.
We give in to anger and our life dives into a downward spiral. That is until we can’t rake
it anymore…….. and “our true self says a little prayer for help. The way is so simple. Yet, It
took me a full circle through all my anger to accept HIM.
If you just read this and choose to answer with the words “but,… except,… or if only…”
NOW search Your heart for truth. Maybe someone needs to hear the following words…
Simply say “I love you, Lets agree to disagree”. That statement may build a bridge that
goes over the wide river of discontent.
I was so angry at my father for all the terrible things he did to himself with his drinking. All
the abuse to my mother and family. Then after college I moved away out of state. I
was determined never to come home again. Then I heard from a family member my
father was dying of cancer. As much as I wanted to go home, my anger kept me away!
I was so bitter and angry. Then I did not come home until it was his funeral. Too late to
say our goodbyes. That was over forty years ago. To this day, I wished I would have
handled it differently. Yet, death is clearly permanent. It is truly a great teacher in so
very many ways.
Death is overwhelming that way. It waits for no one.
The KEY to all of this is self Love. IF I can love myself. Then I can learn to forgive myself.
Big giant key is SELF. We have to start with ourself. Forgive ourself for how we look at
ourselves and how we are judging others and what we did in the past. This resolves
much anger.
Everyone is on their own path.
If I were given the chance before I came to earth, to actually SEE my life and where it
was to go - I am sad to say, I would be petrified, afraid to do it definitely, not willing to
take the risk. Yet, here I am. My whole biological family was devided by horror and
death. My daughter, now dead and no more. The very idea that I could fix things
differently is pretty futile. However I am now resolved to this fact:
”KNOWLEDGE IS POWER.”
THE more you learn about your own self and spirituality is powerful. Who am I today?
I would not trade “ME” for the young woman I started out as. “I finally feel alive.”
We are on a road to a place of peace. No anger, hate or judgement, they do not exist.
“There but for the grace of God go I”……..
Can you let go of your anger today?
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