Humility & Remorse Blog #63

How did my day go today, am I at peace? Is there a person in my life I am upset

with now? Above all, can I find forgiveness for someone today who has hurt me?

Its so ironic how we come out of childhood to think we can leave our families behind!

Yet, only to carry with us so much baggage! This is just stinkin’ old garbage. I know that

as I look back on all parts of my past, I have judged others big time. I’ve been really

upset with a family member because they haven’t wanted to make plans with me, see

me and get together. Well, what about it? We can’t change these people. We can’t

make them different. We especially can’t make them care more! So, what is remorse

really? Its about regret. Its all about realizing how I could have tried harder, given my

all, and said more to break down barriers.

The walls grow big and thick with judgement, all the while knowing, we can’t fix others!

Sometimes with some, its a phone call away, we can make amends and be together.

But only IF both parties want to get together. NOT just one person. However, if there are

family members that deliberately, vindictively and purposefully hold on to mean

feelings - then and only then it’s time to break that connection, say a prayer, bless

them on to their highest good, and MOVE ON!! Leave it alone.

I continue to work on this with humility, remorse and forgiveness. I have judged certain

people in my family and now give myself a pass to “move on. In the dance of life, it’s

important to remember “it takes two to tango”. Every single relationship has meaning,

purpose and room for forgiveness. IF I am aware I remember that all people in my

biological family are there specifically to teach me valuable lessons in living my life

every day, THEN I see I AM evolving! Yet, I remember; “I can’t make others want to be

around me!”

IN the circle of life,” What goes around comes around” What I put out into the universe

comes back to me in spades. What do I mean by this? IF I wake up angry and bitter

and full of blame. Then so goes my day. I become filled with animosity and more

reason to believe everyone else is wrong, and I, a meager bystander. One day goes

into the next and the next. Months go by. Suddenly I see nothing but negativity around

me. I am attracted to more negativity because my gossiping and talking about my

anger with others only perpetuates more darkness dwelling within me.

However, it IS possible to see the world through rose colored glasses, with the glass

half full (not half empty) and tell myself “this too shall pass”. I have a good start to a

brand new day. I have a NEW plan that does NOT involve blaming others for WHO I AM.

Why did I write about remorse and humility? Because everyone of us need this in our

lives every single day. Ironically as I was writing today, I saw two writings in my office

that I keep near me at all times. Both of these writings were written by my two children

when each of them were about twelve years old. Isn’t funny how twelve years old

is like a “passage in life” so to speak. Jesus was twelve years old when he went into

the temple to teach. “When the student is ready, the teacher appears.”

My eldest son wrote about love and I will include his writing, especially because it

wound up being printed in a magazine that year.

“Unconditional Love”

Unconditional Love is hard to explain,

its not like a boat or a plane.

Its not the love you give someone when they’re going away on a train.

Unconditionally is to give, and to give, and to give until you’re all out.

Unconditional Love is to give from your heart, and that’s what its all about.

David. N. 6/24/1990. (Twelve years old)

Our daughter who was also twelve years old (only many years later)… wrote this:

“Humility and Remorse”

“Humility is when you put other people’s life in front of your own. People can use

humility when its around the holidays. Instead of saying “I wonder what I will get?”

You can think about what you will get for other people. Someone who has alot of

humility is my mom. She is always willing to put down whatever she is doing to help

other people, such as her family. Remorse means to be sorry for your sins and try not

to do them again. People can use remorse when they get into a fight with their best

friend. Instead of jumping to conclusions, apologize and just make up. By putting

others first, I try to have humility and remorse. I can write a letter to someone

explaining why……. This helps me because I am able to explain why I do or did things

without being right in front of the person. Someone who shows remorse in my family

is my brother. He always goes and apologizes to someone he gets in a fight with.”

Humility and remorse are important because they basically keep this world together.

When people fight, they should just apologize….” Chrissy. Z. 12 yrs. old. 5/9/2018

Isn’t is amazing what children know about life by the time they are twelve years old?

Yet, as adults we manage so often to get stuck in a time warp of defiant darkness?

So very interesting to see the different perspectives of life from twelve years old.

what happens to us In life as we go and grow and gleam insights going into our

adulthood? Do we take in life gently or do we judge harshly? I understand life can be

filled with answers that only appear to be absolutes! “I won’t forgive!” “Look how they

hurt me!” “Im never getting over that!” Someone might say these things to me.

Then I can answer back with HIS words, Jesus’ last words as he hung on a cross;

“Father forgive them, for they know NOT what they do”

We are here to learn our own lessons each and every day, not to judge others. We are

not here to pick up the phone and call someone and gossip about others. We are here

to pick up the phone, call a friend and spread the “good news of HIS word”. It doesn’t

really matter where we are in life as far as age, circumstance, or health. Each one of us

can start with a new plan of forgiveness, remorse and humility today. I know how much

less baggage I carry around now that I unload daily and take in forgiveness, remorse

and humility. I feel healthier. I feel alive, I AM light hearted. Above all, I feel loved, I feel

HIS unconditional love pouring down on me and in all this HE raises me up each and

every day.

“Can you find humility and remorse today?”

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