“Believe or Blame? Blog #42
Taking a deep breath, I think to myself; “Who do I still blame”? It is easy to think of all
the people I could simply blame for what I feel they have done to me, where I am at in
life and why I have pushed others away. Some people call this the “Blame Game”.
Others refuse to look at truth. Others have been legitimately hurt, yet can we forgive?
What causes a person to suddenly back away from someone? Many people can go
through years and hang on to a grudge. Other times we can reflect back and say to
ourselves: “no matter what I do or say, that person has always treated me badly”.
Other people may say to you, “don’t let someone walk all over You!” Easier said than
done, right? There is not one person out there that does not have some kind of
relationship problem in their own family. We all have a family that we come from.
Many years back, we decided what role to play in the family; are we passive or
aggressive, and it sticks.
As Holidays grow closer, friends and relatives decide the same thing. Grow closer or
stay away. Drama or discipline? Why do the Holidays have to be so dramatic? Why
do so many negative events wind up happening around the holidays? Why do
families stay deliberately away from each other? Better still, why is it so important to
be together JUST for the Holidays?
An ironic twist to all of this is this. On Christmas or any special holiday we most
certainly want to include those we love. However does thot mean you want to see
those people!
Days go by, lives get lived and priorities are made. Many hurts are not dealt with.
Personal hurts lie seething internally with sadness. Little by little in this secular world
we live in, families see less and less of each other. Families are less likely to be in
harmony as well. Because of the internet and cell phones it is easy to have these
as our mediator. We can “check in, leave a message, day is done”. Days, weeks,
months and now years go by. Why bother? Families are broken not just from divorce,
but internally as well. The secular world is winning out. The younger generation find
no need for Christian rituals like going to church or baptizing the children. People are
too busy with their own lives. Divorce, not marriage, takes center stage now. Drinking,
drugs, drama……. material gain, more money spent on what? Children are the
bystanders watching in the wings. Grudges are formed. Decisions are made. The dye
is cast.
Where am I going with this? Truth cannot be diluted. If you are a Christian, Christmas
is the holiday to celebrate the birth of Jesus Christ, period. This is not about a pretend
Santa Claus and eight tiny reindeer with a Christmas tree decorated for what?
This is the birthday of a real person. This person lived and died ovef two thousand
years ago. If you don’t believe this, the holiday should not be celebrated. Our children
should be taught this. To be able to embrace the belief in Jesus Christ brings
opportunity of a powerful light-filled thought. This belief allows children to have “faith”
instead of fear. If children are not raised this way, what happens, whose to blame?
We need to believe, all our prayers, young and old, have a place prayers go to. This is
belief. This is faith.
The person who was alive long aga, could have blamed everyone for what was done
to him, but HE did not. Instead, in HIS short thirty three years of living, HE gave concrete
examples for how we should live day after day after day. Is this being passed down?
What examples go to children? There is no truth greater than this. When truth is
embraced, blame has a funny way of disappearing. We have “only ourselves to
blame for our own daily actions”. If today, we have love in our heart, we have nothing
to regret. If today we blame others, we need to go back look at the lesson to be
learned here, ask HIM to help sort it out internally. We are stuck when we refuse to see
past anger that has not gone away, time to ask for HIS help before this year is gone.
A clean slate brings in forgiveness to anyone and everyone that has hurt us.
REMEMBER, we all have the tools to deal with life as we go through life, some people
refusing these tools. We must forgive them ANYWAY! Time to move on. There are no
exceptions.
The following poem is written by an unknown source but says it all….
“THE COLD WITHIN”
Six humans were trapped by happenstance, in bleak and bitter cold.
Each one possessed a stick of wood, or so the story is told.
Their dying fire in need of logs, the first man held his back.
For of the faces around the fire, he noticed one was black.
The next man looking across the way, saw one was not of his church.
He couldn’t bring himself to give the fire his stick of birch.
The third one sat in tattered clothes, his coat needed a stitch.
Why should his log be put to use to warm the idle rich?
The rich man just sat back and thought of the wealth he had in store,
and how to keep what he had earned from the lazy, shiftless poor.
The black mans face showed revenge, as the fire passed from sight.
For all he saw in his stick of wood was a chance to spite the white.
The last man in this forlorn group, did nothing except for gain.
Giving only to those who gave to him, was how he played the game.
Their logs held tight in death’s still hand was proof of human sin,
They did not die from the Cold without, they died from the cold within.
How many hardened hearts are out there tonight, put to shame?
Can we let go and believe in HIM or continue on In blame?
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